Firstly, I will have all the time in the world for myself and I will make sure to fill it up beautifully, doing things I enjoy, traveling more, spending more quality time with friends, learning new things, and practicing new hobbies. But it reminds of some things to ponder, alone or with others: The gatherings, known as Death Cafes, provide places where death can be discussed comfortably, without fear of violating taboos or being mocked for bringing up the subject. Some TMT techniques involve what psychologists call constructive distraction: busying ourselves with a lifetime of meaningful things. It's about us. Religion is the most direct, because so many faiths sidestep fear of death by promising eternal life. We all are what we believe. A fear of death cannot take root in the heart of a person who is truly satisfied with their life. The fear of death is a common cause and effect of anxiety, and even those without anxiety often experience this fear in some ways. Though I run this site, it is not mine. Growing old is supposed to bring suffering and pain. The things that people fear most about death are the unknown, the fear that they will go before they accomplish certain things in their life, or the fear that their loved ones won't be able to carry on without them. They are all your body of work, your mortal oeuvre, and there can be joy in handing them on. Our culture tells us to fear a long decline. At the end of the day, the advice from other people over 50 who have conquered their fear of death is simple: focus on living authentically, passionately and well. Arguably, the closest relationships I can possibly have are internal; those with past “I”s and envisioned future “I”s. If there’s peace to be had at the approach of death, it comes from knowing that the world you’re exiting is at least a bit richer than the one you found when you arrived. The old paradigm was: You’re born, you peak at midlife, and then you decline into decrepitude. 2. And appropriate, natural exercise renews us both mentally and physically. When faced with acute reminders of death–say, a funeral–we push back with something that prolongs life, like going for a run. As much as it feels like it’s aimed at you… it’s just — well — not. People are able to come to terms with death as they age, thanks to what psychologists building on Becker’s work dubbed Terror Management Theory. Writing about the situations in which they arise can be a helpful tool for working through these issues. In my home country, Romania, I often heard things like “Of course I’m sick. I can’t help noticing that it’s almost invariably asked by people who are in their early to mid 20s. It’s all about self-perception and the story we tell ourselves about whom we are becoming with passing time. It means life, and it’s never coming back. It is quite the opposite. Technically, they are still baby boomers. The content on Tiny Buddha is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment. Decision Editor: Margie E. Lachman, PhD Fear of death, or death anxiety, is a common phenomenon in all societies and is often regarded as the prime motivation for human behavior (Becker 1973). This article will examine the fear of dying as it relates to anxiety and find solutions for managing it. That’s exactly how I want to experience my life once I grow older: as a new opportunity to learn, when every morning is a fresh start, despite the number of my years. Interesting. What makes so many people scared of aging? Additionally, fear of death is now generally regarded as a multidimensional concept (Lester 1994; Neimeyer and Moore 1994; Wong, Reker, and Gesser 1994), with most measurin… We get better at this as we age. If you fear falling, you may limit your life in a way that … That is a basic human need. Forgive one another. I’m not young any longer, so that should be expected.” Or “My time has gone now; I’m seventy-five!”. I don’t believe in an afterlife and I’m terrified of not existing anymore. Time is the most precious asset we’ve got. They don’t stress much and have a social life, despite their age. This appears in the February 26, 2018 issue of TIME. When we are financially stable and secured, it is much easier to be happy, right?